8.25.2011

easier said than done

"If you love two people at the same time, choose the second one, because if you really loved the first one you wouldn’t have fallen for the second" - Johnny Depp

How do you feel about this quote? It's one of the things that I'm on the fence about right now.  It makes sense if you really do love both people, but what if you only think you love the second. In that case you would be making a huge mistake. Or maybe both people are wrong for you, because if you fell for the second and still loved the first you could argue that you don't really love either one. Or what if there is a chance you could love the second, in that case do the same rules apply...

 Whenever you have a problem like this, I've found that your friends aren't always the people you should turn to. They will tell you one of two things... "Go for it you aren't happy with him." or "O no you shouldn't think like that, you can make it work." But the truth is no one knows your relationship but you. No one can really give you good advice, unless they know every single minor detail... everything that you are thinking 24-7 and everything that the two of you have gone through and are going through.

Although Mr. Depp makes it sound so easy... it really is easier said than done.

And one more thing if you have gone through this or are currently... don't feel bad. Don't tell yourself you are a bad person for feeling something for more than one person. We are only human after all. I don't condone cheating so don't think that's what I'm saying because you can fall in love with someone just talking to them especially when you were already friends. ( I know emotional cheating is cheating, but in my opinion physical is worse) If this happens to you as long as you don't take it to a physical level and you are completely honest with the one you are with I don't think you did anything wrong. Honesty is key. People fall in and out of love everyday... and if they love you they will understand. They may be hurt, but they will understand.

Well I'm done rambling now... hope it gave you something to think about.

-me

take the time to listen

"I spy with my little eye something red and white with eyes and a red mouth and red wings and do you want a hint? It's that chicken." (age 3)

Children never cease to amaze me. Every day they learn and grow and discover amazing things. As adults we can't see the way a child does, and what a shame that is when you think about it. A child sees the good in the world that we don't always see because most of the time we focus on all the negative aspects of life. But, how amazing would it be to just stop, take a step back and throw all of our worries out the window. If you are reading this, that is what I want you to do today. If you have children take the time to play with them, explore the world that they live in.

And always listen to children whether they are your own or just a child you know.  Not only do they say the funniest things, but also some of the smartest.

Here are a few more quotes from kids that make me smile ::

"You know what? Not all dreams come true. But that's okay because you can always make new dreams." (age 4)

" I wish I had a small sweatshirt for my face."  (age 4)